Increasing comfort around mess
Overview
You can help your child feel more comfortable with mess by getting the space ready and thinking about how prepared they are to try out different textures and sensations. Think about whether they will be more comfortable sitting, kneeling, standing or moving around. We recommend starting with something they are familiar with and linking this to a new sensation. Use comfortable protective clothing such as well-washed overshirts or bigger t-shirts from home and keep a spare set of clothing handy. It is best if you can teach your child how to wipe their own hands and keep cleaning materials nearby.
Playing outdoors can provide lots of opportunities to experience different textures and being outside can help some children engage in a way that isn’t possible indoors.
One step at a time: Building towards being comfortable with mess
You could start by keeping a damp cloth nearby so your child can clean their hands immediately when they feel uncomfortable. It's helpful to make hand-washing movements a regular and fun part of their routine. Practice these movements together to help them get used to cleaning their hands in a relaxed manner.
You could then gradually increase the time they use the damp cloth to clean their hands. Start with small amounts of messy play and slowly build up over time. Praise your child for managing the mess, even if it's just for a little bit longer than before- every step counts!
Slowly introduce new textures, trying one or two new ones at a time and keep play short and fun. Incorporate their interests whenever possible. This step-by-step way of playing helps children feel more comfortable and confident with messy play.
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